Feeling disconnected in your marriage doesn’t have to be the end of intimacy. With intentional effort, you can reignite emotional intimacy and rediscover the closeness you once had. Cathy Krafve, author of Marriage Conversations: From Co-Existing to Cherished, shares that rebuilding intimacy isn’t just possible—it’s something you can start today. With practical advice and biblical wisdom, Cathy shows couples how to reconnect and rediscover God’s purpose for me and my marriage.
“Reigniting emotional intimacy in your marriage is really hard work,” Cathy admits. “There are moments when trust feels fragile, and you wonder if forgiving your spouse one more time is worth it. But the answer is always yes.”
Why Emotional Intimacy Fades—and Why You Need to Rekindle It Now
When life gets busy, emotional intimacy often takes a backseat. Cathy explains that stress, parenting, and packed schedules can leave couples feeling like roommates instead of partners. “Communication is usually the first thing to break down,” she says. “But it’s also the first step to rebuilding. Vulnerability—being open about what you need and what scares you—is the foundation for intimacy.”
Forgiveness is another essential component. Cathy points to Colossians 3:13: “Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” “Forgiveness is a choice,” Cathy says. “It’s not about forgetting the hurt but about making room for healing. It opens the door to emotional connection.”
Three Steps to Reignite Emotional Intimacy in Your Marriage
- Start with Vulnerability
“Be honest about what’s hurting you or what you need from your spouse,” Cathy advises. “When I’m vulnerable, it invites my husband into deeper understanding. That honesty can change everything.” - Make Forgiveness a Daily Habit
Forgiveness isn’t always easy, but it’s necessary for restoring trust. “You don’t have to wait until you feel ready,” Cathy explains. “Choosing to forgive creates space for intimacy and healing.” - Find Joy in Shared Experiences
Reconnecting can be as simple as enjoying a shared activity. “For me and David, live music became our thing,” Cathy recalls. “It didn’t matter that neither of us were musicians—it was about creating something fun together.”
God’s Purpose for Me Through Emotional Intimacy
Cathy believes that emotional intimacy in marriage reflects a bigger spiritual truth. “When we rebuild intimacy, we mirror God’s love for His church,” she says. “Marriage teaches us grace, forgiveness, and daily commitment to one another.”
Marriage isn’t about perfection—it’s about growth. “God’s purpose for me in marriage includes using challenges to refine me and draw me closer to Him. Every step toward intimacy brings us closer to the relationship He designed for us.”
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Frequently Asked Questions About Emotional Intimacy
Why does emotional intimacy fade in marriage?
Emotional intimacy fades when couples stop prioritizing their connection due to stress or life’s demands. Intentional communication and shared moments can restore it.
How can I rebuild emotional intimacy with my spouse?
Start with vulnerability and forgiveness. Be honest about your needs, and commit to small steps that help rebuild trust and connection.
What’s a practical way to reconnect with my spouse?
Find a shared activity that brings both of you joy—whether it’s a hobby, date night, or even laughing at something silly. Shared joy rebuilds emotional closeness.
